One of the fun things about Facebook is that you pick up a really handy tip from time to time, particularly when it comes to developing a mindset that is healthier and more conducive to success.
This happened to me this week, and I thought I’d pass along what I learned.
A friend of mine shared a post directed toward all of us who tend to apologize when we don’t need to. I don’t know if you’re guilty of this, but I certainly am.
In her post, she said she was going to start saying, “Thank you,” instead of “I’m sorry.”
So for example, when I roust my younger daughter — a very solid sleeper — from bed in the morning, instead of saying “I’m sorry, but you have to get up,” I would say, “Thank you for getting up,” and leave it at that.
Or when I remind my older daughter about her chores — which she does cheerfully — instead of saying “Sorry to nag, but don’t forget to vacuum,” I would say, “When you have a moment, don’t forget to vacuum.” And then when she says she’d be happy to, I would say, “Thank you.” No apologies needed.
I like this because it replaces a form of negativity with a form of gratitude. In my experience, gratitude tends to bring about good things, so my hope is by developing this new habit, it will a) build up my confidence (not that I really suffer in this area), b) make my communication clearer, and c) help those I love most to see that I appreciate the things they do, not that I’m frustrated when they forget or struggle.
So this is one new habit I plan to develop and that I have high hopes for. What about you? What new, positive habits do you have planned for the coming year?
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January 5th: This week, join me for our next Monthly Member Update. During this live webinar, I’ll share some ideas on how a non-writing hobby can help your writing career. Plus, I’ll dig into the best content on the site, give you a peek at upcoming events, and wrap it all up with a live Q&A, so bring your questions about freelancing!
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That’s all for now. Make it a great week.