Member Update: Willing to Look Stupid?

I attended a small-field soccer practice this past week. It was a mixed group. Men. Women. Teenagers up through 50-year-olds.

Now, I’m athletic. And I have a couple of years of indoor soccer under my belt. I understand the game. I make some pretty okay passes. I play really decent defense. And occasionally, when I’m playing up front, I sink a goal.

What I am not good at is possessing the ball. Dribbling a soccer ball under pressure for me is like trying to dance blindfolded in a room full of nervous cats. It’s not pretty.

Anyway, I’m out on the field this last week with all these other players and some of them are just magic on the ball.

I find myself feeling jealous… and wondering how many years and how much practice it took for them to reach that level of comfort, moving a ball with their feet.

And then I had my most important thought of the week: They had to be willing to look stupid to get where they are.

If you want to be really, really good at something, you have to practice. A lot. I don’t care if it’s cooking or training a dog or playing the piano or speaking a new language or learning to write web copy… practice is essential, even if you have a natural, innate talent.

And when you practice, you have to be willing to go for it. If you’re worried about how you look or how the food you’re making tastes or how you sound when you play the piano, you’re going to get stuck doing the easy stuff. The basic stuff. Because that’s the stuff that’s safe. That’s the stuff where you can look like you know what you’re doing, even when you know you have so much more to learn.

To crack into that “so much more to learn” territory, you have to be willing to make mistakes, to look silly, to feel stupid.

And that’s a hard hurdle for a lot of us to get over. Embarrassment is a top contender for the least favorite emotion.

Fortunately, there are some things you can do to help put that fear of looking stupid aside.

First, learn to laugh at yourself. If you can keep a good sense of humor, it makes it easier to try things that don’t come easily at first.

Second, enlist the help of someone who won’t laugh at you. We’ve all had that teacher or coach or friend who couldn’t quite figure out why something that came so easily to them isn’t coming quite as easily to us. It’s an uncomfortable feeling. That sense of being judged and found wanting when you’re only just learning. Seek out the teachers who get where you’re at and will help you advance without making you feel like there’s something wrong with you.

Third, practice alone sometimes, but not all the time. If you’re working on mastering a direct-response sales letter, write a few practice versions on your own before writing one that you show to someone to review. And pick someone who will be honest with you, but who knows how to give constructive feedback without making it personal.

If you really want to discover what you look like at your best, then making mistakes in front of an audience eventually is going to be part of the journey. Embrace that now, and you will reach a higher level of success a lot faster than if you don’t.

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That’s all for now. Make it a great week!


Heather Robson

Heather Robson

Managing editor of Wealthy Web Writer, Heather has over ten years of content marketing and development experience.

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