Member Update: Lose Yourself

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How often do you get lost in the moment?

I’m not just talking about writing. I’m talk about anything and everything.

Conversations… movies… hobbies… learning something new…

All of these things are more enjoyable — both in the moment and in retrospect — when you’re able to lose yourself in them.

When you’re completely un-self-conscious, you’re able to do whatever it is you’re doing more fully. There’s no second-guessing… no self-censorship… no doubt. There’s more openness… more vulnerability… more creativity and imagination…

But losing yourself in a moment or an activity isn’t always easy to do.

In fact, it can feel impossible to do on purpose. More often than not, when you do lose yourself, it’s something that just happens… and you’re grateful for it later.

Unfortunately, there isn’t really a way to lose yourself on demand. Like I said, if you’re thinking about it, it’s really hard to actually do it.

But there are things you can do to make yourself more likely to have those moments…

First, identify what’s important to you and what you enjoy, both at work and away from work. Make time to do those things. You’re much more likely to lose yourself in an activity you like, that’s meaningful to you, and that you have time to do.

Second, break your multitasking habit if you have one. You can’t lose yourself in an activity if you’re switching between activities. As part of this, when you are about to do something that’s important, remove as many distractions as possible.

Third, challenge yourself. Losing yourself in the moment often involves doing something that is not so difficult it makes you anxious, but is not so easy, it leaves you feeling bored.

Fourth, reflect on the moments when you did lose yourself. I’m not suggesting you analyze why you were able to lose yourself in those moments — just enjoy the memory of them.

And finally, make mindfulness a daily practice. Meditation works for me. The more I meditate, the more aware I am of my brain switching focus (whether I want it to or not). The sooner I catch that shift, the sooner I bring my attention back to where I want it. And here’s the beautiful part… the more I do that, the less often I need to do it, because my focus tends to last longer.

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Mark Your Calendar

July 8: Join me this Thursday for our next Monthly Member Update. This month, we’ll look at how to improve the pacing and flow of your writing. Good writing is easy and enjoyable to read and pacing and flow are integral to that. See what you can do to improve these aspects of your writing.

Around the Web

Losing yourself in the moment is also known as achieving flow state. Learn more about flow state and how to achieve it more often.

Being less self-conscious is key to losing yourself in social situations. Here, you’ll find five things you can do to get rid of that self-conscious feeling.

In addition to meditation, journaling is a habit that can help you be more prone to finding your flow state. Plus, journaling can be a lot of fun. Check out these ideas for making good use of a blank notebook.

On a different note, content marketing is an effective way to grow your freelance business. Here, you’ll find some advice on making content marketing work for you.

That’s all for now. Make it a great week!


Heather Robson

Heather Robson

Managing editor of Wealthy Web Writer, Heather has over ten years of content marketing and development experience.

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