Over the last nine weeks, I’ve talking about Brene Brown’s 10 Guideposts to Wholehearted Living… and today brings us to her tenth guidepost.
To let go of being cool and to cultivate song, dance, and laughter in your life.
I’ve known people who have no interest in being cool or in what the “cool kids” think. But most people I’ve met do want to be cool. And they police their behavior if the so-called cool kids are around… the cool kids being anyone they want to impress.
The thing is, a lot of times, those people we’re hoping to impress have cultivated an air of disinterest, detachment… even boredom.
That’s appealing because it comes across as confidence. Self-assuredness. It’s like they don’t care what anyone thinks… and for a lot of people, that trait is elusive and desirable because we’d like to be able to approach the world that way ourselves.
But let me ask you this…
If you truly didn’t care what people thought, if you were truly detached from other people’s opinions of you, would you sing or be silent? Would you dance or would you sit? Would you laugh or would you be still? What do you miss out on when you worry about being seen as cool?
When you let go of the idea of being cool, you can actually embrace what makes the cool kids seem desirable.
You can stop worrying about what people think of your silliness, your nerdiness… even your mistakes. You can stop policing your own actions and responses and just be yourself. And you can definitely be less judgmental of the actions of others.
More than that, you can be goofy. You can have fun. You can try things and mess them up. You can sing off-key, and still take joy in the singing.
When you decide to stop worrying about being cool and just embrace the things that bring you joy no matter how foolish you look, two things will happen… well, probably more than two. But two that I want to note in particular.
First, you’ll enjoy everything more… and you’ll find most situations far less emotionally draining. When you’re not afraid of being silly, that’s when you can really let go and have fun. And having fun is key to restoring your creative well. In other words, you’ll have more creative energy to draw from.
Second, you’ll become more comfortable with being vulnerable. And when you do that, you’ll notice your writing starts connecting with people in a deeper way, one that resonates more.
So go ahead and sing the wrong words at the top of your lungs. If anyone teases you, just smile and say you’re a writer.
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